In the second part of our series on wedding parties, we are now talking to the people in the wedding parties. You can make or break the wedding experience for your person and yourself. Don’t damage your relationships with some of your friends and family.
Ask questions
You have received the ask – will you be in my wedding party? Before you scream your excitement from the rooftops, you need to ask some questions. Get the whole scope. What are the couple’s expectations? Do you need to plan wedding adjacent events like showers and/or bachelorette/bachelor parties? What will you have to pay for – attire, grooming/beauty? Take in this information and consider if you have the time and finances to be in the wedding party.
Say no if you need to
If being in the wedding party would cause you too much stress, it is okay to say no. But let the person know why, if you are comfortable sharing why. You can still be supportive by talking about the wedding, being a sounding board, and even attending the wedding.
Clearly communicate
If you say yes, you are now in the thick of it. Be sure to keep the lines of communication open with the couple and the other people in the wedding party. Make sure that you are contributing and answering texts. If you say you will do something, DO IT! If something isn’t going well, bring it up early and help find a solution.
Don’t be a drama llama
Don’t start drama, don’t play into drama – just don’t. If the couple want to do something a certain way, remember that it’s their day and you signed onto this even if you disagree with it.
Be on it for the day
The day of the wedding has many moving parts and you are one of those parts. Make sure you have the timeline and you stick to it like glue. Show up on time. Be in your attire and ready to go. Help keep areas tidy. Make sure there is food when you are getting ready. Don’t over consume alcohol. Be present for the major events like speeches. You have no idea how many times I have to hunt down wedding parties in the bathrooms so that speeches can happen.
Have fun
Obviously, you have a special connection with the couple or one of the person’s getting married. You are allowed to have fun and celebrate their love. Be their biggest cheerleader, cry those tears, and rip it up on the dance floor.
In case you missed part 1 of this 2 part series, check it out here.
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